When I have a new writing coaching client, we kick off our work together with a Vision and Goals session. Identifying a vision for the writing and for our time together as client and coach gives us a North Star to guide the work.
Anyway, near the end of this session with a new client, he said something to the effect that if we don’t acknowledge our vision or work toward our vision, it haunts us. I can’t stop thinking about this remark. It reminds me that while I am trained and experienced as a coach many times my clients lay some truths out that affect me deeply, and for that I’m grateful.
Sometimes at night when I am scrolling through my social media feeds or watching Netflix, I have running through my head the words, “wasting time, wasting time, wasting time.” Yet, I keep letting the minutes slip away. And, when I can’t sleep, I wonder if I should just get up and write, but then I don’t. Fear and negative beliefs keep me in the dark.
I’ve been on creative lockdown since the beginning of August, which is when my husband and I sunk into the chaos of a custody fight for my stepson. We were both waylaid by the stress and emotion of that. We had nothing left to give after we were done seeing to the wellbeing of this kiddo we love.
But I noticed this week that my husband was playing his guitar for the first time in weeks. Then there was the divine intervention of a lovely and honest coaching client who said that if we ignore our vision it will haunt us. So now, I’m off to practice some yoga. Then when I’m sweaty and fully in my body and my defenses are down, I will be writing.
I've come to learn I don't enjoy a haunting.
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